Joey (34) tries to live a healthy lifestyle, but gets stuck in obsessive behavior and fear to gain weight. She wrote me an e-mail with a cry for help.
I occasionally get emails that I feel I shouldn’t keep to myself. Because I believe that we can support each other, lift each other up and motivate each other. because I want to show you that you you don’t stand alone in your issues and concerns.
the fear that I will become too fat, with all the negative effects of it, will never completely go away
As such, I got an email from reader Joey (a 34-year-old woman with two small children, name is fictitious due to privacy reasons). She read my article “How to train your fat percentage as low as possible?“. In this article, I mentioned that I was sucked deeper and deeper into my ‘healthy lifestyle’, which could therefore no longer be called healthy. Her response to this article was as follows:
“I wanted to tell you that this is very familiar to me. Initially I ended this a long time ago, but the fear that I will become too fat, with all the negative effects of it, will never completely go away. “
“For me it’s stable for a while, just healthy, nothing exeggarated; just relaxed. Then I fall back into obsessive behavior, which is reflected in not wanting to lose control over my food-intake and getting addicted to sports.”
I feel like I’ve slid into a deep valley, the one that I had just crawled out of.
“After such an obsessive period always follows a paralyzing period, in which I don’t eat healthy anymore at all. I feel like I’ve slid into a deep valley, the one that I had just crawled out of. A giant mountain in front of me. At such a moment I find it difficult to oversee things. So I just lie there underneath that mountain and I wait. I stop working out, eating healthy and lose structure. “
Keeping out of the valley
I find it very sad to read that this woman is clearly lost, although she tries hard to do good. In a future article I will elaborate my response to her e-mail with you. Herein I offer her practical tips to get- and stay out of her deep valley.
Do you have tips for Joey?
For now I would like to ask you: do you recognize yourself in Joey’s email? How did you get out of this valley? How did you keep out?
It would be nice if we could help and support each other. I have my tips and vision, of course, but there are more roads that lead to Rome. Plus, I also would like to hear someone else talking but myself 😉
Thanks in advance for your response!
– Update – In this article you can read my tips to Joey plus reader’s tips.
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